Ask questions. Ask. The worst is you’ll be told no. But if you don’t ask, you don’t get. That took me a long time to figure out, but the squeaky wheel gets the oil. It does. And you don’t have to squeak annoyingly; you can squeak nicely and it still works. Ask the nurses questions, ask… go to your library if you can. Go to, depending on the type—I mean, if it’s dementia or if it’s multiple sclerosis there’s always associations that will help you to a point, but they can’t do…, but they might steer you to the right place. I just recently, in fact yesterday, found out about an organization called “We Care” and I that was on the net. I don’t know how I ended up there, but some link that came through something else and they had a booklet for caregivers.