While others helped care for the newborn, Andrea had to figure out how to do it on her own.
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So now it added a whole different dimension, and I remember the first time I had to be alone with my daughter for two hours. I was so frightened and it just had to be a matter of proving to myself that I could do it. So those two hours I got through them and eventually I started to see I could get through another hour here and another hour there, and I was capable of doing it.
I had given over so much of the job to other people that in some ways I became very co-dependent on other people to do the work that I probably could’ve started to do a little earlier, but I don’t like to judge myself during that time, so slowly, slowly I started to learn how to take care of my daughter. And it did start to come naturally, and once she started interacting, especially when she reached 1, things started to change really for the better.
And then I would say when she was around 14 months I really just got such a kick out of this little person, and I thought it was so cool that this was something I was able to do.
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