When her baby didn't stop crying one night, Aurore felt completely incompetent not being able to soothe him.

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I remember one time where he was crying, and… but we… when we… once we discovered that he had this digestion issue… so we had, you know, figured out different strategies to soothe him, and one of which was rocking and singing to him. So that was really, really helpful to have discovered that. It didn’t necessarily make the crying go away 100%, but it reduced it. And so keeping him upright, rocking him, singing to him, soothing him, that helped. But then one night, it didn’t work anymore, and so from like five o’clock until 11 o’clock, he was crying. He was crying. I was rocking him, my partner was walking him, my mum was walk – walking him. We were all taking turns, and I was absolutely exhausted. And my partner said, you know, why don’t you – why don’t you let your mum do it.

And I just felt completely incompetent that I couldn’t soothe my child, and that I couldn’t figure out the way to soothe my child. And my reaction just seemed over the top. Like I was super offended, super hurt, and I felt super incompetent. And so that may be within the range of normal reaction. I know, when I look back, it feels like it… my reaction was too strong. But in the moment, I was so upset, and I just felt, as I said, completely incompetent that I couldn’t take care of, and I couldn’t soothe, and calm down my child. And I… and those moments where – where I can’t soothe him, or he isn’t able to calm down, yes, it doesn’t feel good. It doesn’t feel good at all. And I think that just adds to the feeling of the feeling that I’m not doing something right.

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