Emma describes how she felt like a failure after an emergency C-section.
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I ended up having an emergency C-section, and my son was taken to the NICU [crying]. And I was so frustrated and angry at my body. And I was, I felt like a failure, you know. And one thing I remember thinking on the recovery bed was, what am I going to tell my mom? And I think that speaks a lot to the birthing culture of how much we put on ourselves as women, to carry, like somehow we fail if it’s not this perfect way, or if it’s not exactly how we planned, that we fail, but we didn’t fail. You still did it, your body did an amazing thing. And I mean, in that moment, that was the last thing I would hear. I had my doula there with me and everything she said, just went in one ear and out the other and just – this guilt, just started building and building and building and building.
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