No-one wants to talk about the dark side of having babies but at the same time, Erin1 felt bad for opening up about these topics.
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Yes, because no one ever wants to talk about it. They – because it’s all about, especially when you’re – you live in a community which is fairly well to-do and pregnancies are very planned and children are very spoiled and taken care of, that no one wants to talk about like the dark side of this. There is all the excitement about having a baby and how wonderful it is and what you’re going to name that baby and the organic sleeper it’s going to wear. But no one – and it was funny, because I was actually at work, and I met this woman who kind of works in the same department as me and she’s pregnant. And I actually started telling her, “You know, if you have a problem after you have the baby – like, if you start to feel depressed or really anxious, contact this place.” And I felt bad about it, because I – I didn’t want to scare her. I didn’t want to say, “Mm, this is going to happen.” But it’s like, if you find yourself in the place where it’s dark and you didn’t think you would be there, you know, like I said, reach out, get help, it’s okay.
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