Genna feels there is a kind of judgement that people struggling with mental health during and after pregnancy do not love their child.
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Interviewer: Where do you think this pressure to be “perfect mommy” comes from?
I think it comes from people not sharing their struggles. I think there’s a lack of honesty in our society about how challenging it can be in the first year, so I think it comes from everyone who doesn’t share their story. Also I have shared things to say like, “I found my baby really boring,” and people are like, “Oh but they’re so cute.” “I didn’t say they weren’t cute. I didn’t say I didn’t love them. They’re kind of boring. They don’t give back anything.” So I think there is some kind of judgement that if you have any kind of struggle in the postpartum period that you worry people think that means you don’t love your child and that’s not true. You can still love your child and find it challenging to be raising a baby.
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