Joan knew she could trust her husband 100%, but she still accused him of not taking care of their child properly. He understood and supported her with finding more help.

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And so at that point I was like ‘Oh shit. Okay, if somebody else is saying that this is not normal then it’s definitely not normal.’ But at that time I had not told my husband anything still.

Interviewer: How come?

I don’t know. I don’t know. I think I just didn’t want to admit that… It came out because I had accused my husband of not taking care of my son properly, or like being afraid that my husband wasn’t going to take care of my son properly, and from that turned into this massive argument obviously because, you know, my husband, if anything he’s the only person that you can 100% trust with your child, and here I am accusing that person of not being sincere or, I don’t even know.

And then from there I basically had to say like “Holy fuck, like this is where I’m at.” And then I told him “Like this is how I’ve been feeling, this is what’s going on. I need help with the sleeping. I can’t do this anymore. Like, I’m starting to hear things.” And that’s when he would do a night feed at 10, I’d try to go to bed at around like eight, 8:30 so that I could at least sleep from eight until 12 or eight until two, whenever my son would wake up next.

My husband is amazing. He understood. Obviously I think he wanted me to come to him sooner with it, and I think he knew that there were things going on, but he was just waiting for me to fully voice it. But yeah, he was supportive. And every single night you know he put my son to bed. He would boot it home every single day to make sure that he was there to help, you know. On weekends, he was there every single weekend. Like he took a lot on to make sure that I was properly supported, yeah.

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