Tara cried a lot right before giving birth as she was facing fears around her changing relationship, weight changes and the delivery.
Transcript
I was really scared to give birth. If someone had asked me kind of what I was hoping for at that time the days before giving birth, I would have asked, like, if I could be put under as in, like, general anaesthetic and then you take out the baby, I would have gone that route. [Laughter] You know? Like, I was just – I was so scared of that process. I just didn’t feel like I was prepared to give birth. I was scared of the pain. I have had a lot of back issues since my early 20s. I’m in my mid-30s now. So it’s been a long process with that kind of pain. I’ve had a lot of pelvic pain prob – issues that I’ve worked with physiotherapists with that.
“So I was really scared. I didn’t want to go through the birth process. I couldn’t – I could have my husband with me and our doula at the hospital. And she was great. We had some, like, false alarms that we ended up being in the hospital earlier than – because we thought I was going into labour. And she was there 12 hours with us and that was great. You know? Like, she just sat with us waiting, hoping the contractions would get closer and closer together and they weren’t. [Laughter] So, like, she was a good, emotional support for both of us. And so I was scared. I didn’t want to go through it. I cried a lot.
And prior to giving birth in those first days I remember crying with my husband and I said that – it felt like I was saying goodbye to our relationship (crying). I know that sounds really weird but a big change was coming in our – in our marriage and in our relationship and in our life and I felt like I was saying goodbye to that in that sense – that we’re gonna have someone new and I don’t know who this person is—you know?—that’s coming. Right? I don’t know how it’s going to affect a relationship and our life.
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