The future and caregiving – Hélène


Hélène wishes that dying was easier to talk about. She worries about being ready for the future.


That’s always a bit tough, and that’s another thing we don’t learn anymore. I know that my mom took care of her mom—my grandmother died at home. And in those days, and she’s seen a lot of people dying in those days, and it was something that was part of life. Now, it’s not. We don’t want to talk about it; we hide it. If you go to a funeral parlour you don’t see, you don’t know anything anymore. I think just maybe knowing that perhaps I will be there…until there, so that I don’t panic, I would like to have more [of] what to look for. How do I know? It’s okay, but how do I know? How do I not panic [about] the person that I’m looking after? How do I make it easier? And I know, you know?

It’s like when my mom got sick, I went to see her at the hospital and she was supposed to come out, and I said, “No, she’s not coming out.” But, I worry about that sometimes. Be prepared too. Like, you have to talk, you have to know your finances. You have to know what the person wants, without just living in the future. You still have to have your basics, so that when you’re in that state, that’s taken care of. You don’t have to waste energy on that. You can focus on something else. That has changed my perception, and yeah, I do wish it wasn’t such a big mystery, because it is part of life. And maybe if it was more part of life, we wouldn’t be freaking out as much as we are now. And I don’t know.

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